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A 'protection plan' will help you and your children get to a safe place when you are in danger. The plan will include where to go, and what you need to take with you, if you're forced to leave your home to escape from a violent partner. When do you need a protection plan? 1) If living in an abusive relationship. 2) If you recently left an abusive relationship. The Cycle of Violence (and its role in the protection plan) Violence in abusive relationships follows a "cycle of violence". An assault is usually followed by a period of calm called the "honeymoon phase", where the abuser feels and acts sorry about the attack. The honeymoon phase is followed by the "tension building phase", during which you will see a gradual build-up of tension, frustration and anger. During the tension building phase the chances of assault are much greater. The safest and surest way to protect yourself (and your children) is to put some distance between you and your partner during these high-risk times. Elements of a protection plan Each protection plan is unique, because each woman's circumstances are unique. Most important thing is your safety and the safety of your children. 1) Be aware of the signs that tell you an assault is about to take place. - What does your partner say in the period before an attack? - Does alcohol play a role in the violence towards you? - Is there a predictable time between attacks? 2) Decide on a safe place you can go with your children. - There is a safe home in Flin Flon, and a shelter in The Pas. - The home of a friend or relative. - A hotel, or any other safe place. (If you cannot leave your home, is there a room or area of your home where you can be safe?) 3) Decide how you will get there. - Do you have transportation? - If not, who can help you get to a safe place? - If you are going to a safe home or shelter, they may be able to help you. 4) Decide how you will escape from your home if an attack is about to happen. Find out if there is a door or window you can use for escape, if needed, and whether your children can be taken out through these exits. Make sure you know immediately where you are going once you leave the home. Memorize emergency numbers you may need. Find out beforehand where the nearest phone is. 5) Decide what to take when you leave. Do not stay behind to take belongings if it endangers you or your children. If possible, do not leave your children. If you are in immediate danger and need to leave them, return as soon as possible, with the police if necessary. If you are experiencing an abusive relationship, call the Women's Resource Centre at 681-3105 for help.
